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Keep your anonymity.
Never include your family name, your personal e-mail address, your personal
web site or Internet address, home address, work place or any other identifiable
information in your profile or the first e-mails that you exchange with
other users of the online dating service. Make sure that the signature
of your e-mails is turned off or does not include any personally identifiable
information, in case that you are communicating with someone through your
personal e-mail. Stop communicating with people who press you for such
information or try to mislead you to disclose such information in any
way. Take as much time as you need to feel comfortable with somebody,
before you provide some personal information about yourself. Ask questions
and strive to get satisfactory answers. Again - trust your instincts,
be selective and do not rush.
Be patient and trust
your feelings. Careful and well thought out decisions usually lead to
better results when dating and this is true for online dating as well.
Do not trust anyone, who has not earned your trust. Every candidate should
earn your confidence gradually, showing honesty and sincerity. It is your
right to spend as much time as you need to find the person who deserves
your trust and you should always be very careful. If you think that somebody
is lying, this is usually so and you should react accordingly. Try somebody
else who eventually deserves your trust. Keep your romantic spirit within
reasonable limits. Do not fall in love in your own notion of somebody.
Do not rush into intimacy, even if this is just online intimacy.
Ask for a picture.
The picture can give you a good idea about the appearance of the person
with whom you are communicating, which could help you judge this person
correctly. In fact it would be best to see several different photos of
the same person in different circumstances: informal, formal, at home,
outside. If your requests for a picture are constantly being declined
with various excuses, it is quite possible that this person is hiding
something. The scanning of a photo is not an expensive service, this is
why the possible excuses, why this has not been done are very few.
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